This site is a gift! It is therapy! It is sharing! It is about building bridges and encouraging authenticity! It is about removing the stigma of a faith transition! It is about understanding and empathy! It is about getting things off your chest! It is likely a person sharing some of their most intimate thoughts, feelings and experiences! It is the individual and collective experiences of various people and their journey with the Mormon faith.
So why did I decide to put this site together? In a nutshell, I went through a "faith transition" in October of 2018. It rocked my entire world and left a gaping hole in my soul that needed to be mended and repaired. Part of my process of healing involved me creating a letter that I intended to share with my family, friends, and anyone else who wanted to know why I was leaving the church. I wanted to be understood and I wanted everyone else to know the new things that I had discovered. I wanted to be validated and I wanted to not be the bad guy. I wanted my daughter to know why I couldn't be there in the temple for her wedding. I wanted my wife to know why I was completely obliterating her vision of our eternal family. I wanted my parents to know that they hadn't failed in their efforts to raise a good son. I wanted everyone to know that I wasn't being "deceived".
There is something so therapeutic about writing, but there is also therapy in sharing and knowing that you aren't alone in the way that you feel! I know many of you have your own stories and your own letters. If you are willing, send me what you have written and share what you have to say. It might be a letter you wrote to your bishop. It might be a letter to your wife. It might be a letter to your family or parents. Whatever...
Someone is going to read your letter and they are going to resonate with what is said. Someone is going to read it and know that they aren't going crazy for feeling the way they do. Someone is going to read it and gain additional understanding and insights for their own life. Someone is going to read it and part of their soul is going to heal.
I know you have your own story. My guess is that you are aching to share it and to be understood and validated. If your experience was anything like mine, you have probably written your own letter or have something else you would like to share. I hope you will share it! I want to read what you have to say, and I know that other people do too.
To read what others have submitted, click on the "Shared Letters" tab at the top of this page. To read my letter, click on the red link below. To share something, send it to: